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Generation of Sexual Generosity

It's very safe to say that THIS generation (after 2006) compared to previous generations (before 2006), is very GENEROUS when it comes to sex. If you are reading this and believe that "SHARING IS CARING" is appropriate during relationships or have engaged in a threesome at any point in your life, then you may be generous and i’m NOT talking about sharing food.

To begin, let's define "generous". The word GENEROUS according to the new oxford American dictionary is showing a readiness to give more of something than is strictly necessary or expected. The synonyms listed? LIBERAL, FREE, GIVING... sounds like sex in the last 12 years to me lmao.
Think about it. Most of us in this generation have become sexual GIVERS. (Receivers too lol, but definitely more givers). Most people go out of their way to make sure their partner feels good. This includes giving oral sex, ensuring your partner climaxes first, and trying new things that you wouldn't normally do on your own. Here are other aspects of sex in our society that has CHANGED since 2006:

  • Most teenagers are losing their virginities and having sex at younger ages.
  • The terms "SEXUAL ADDICTION" was coined, is very commonly used, and is now a psychological diagnosis.
  • Most birth control and condoms are FREE and are more readily available.
  • The Plan B pill is available over the counter.
  • Porn is free and easier to access (There used to be a time when you had to pay for VHS tapes).
  • People discuss sex more openly.
  • Movie topics discuss sex more openly (50 shades of grey?)
  • BDSM and S&M are practiced more often (50 shades of grey?) LOL
  • Female bisexuality is at an all time high.
  • Male bisexuality is at an all time high.
  • Infidelity is at an all time high.
  • Sex ROBOTS have been invented and sold that can replicate HUMAN SEX.
  • Sex on the first date is no longer a taboo (especially if you read my previous article).
  • More orgy's and threesomes are occurring... and the list goes on!

So here's an interesting fact that may be used to contradict my argument: Evidently, the United States birth rate has STEADILY DECLINED since 1960, and EVEN MORE since 2007 (here are the numbers for my fellow statistic lovers: http://www.latimes.com/science/sciencenow/la-sci-sn-us-birth-rate-20170630-htmlstory.html) HOWEVER. Does this mean that people in this generation are having less sex or have become less generous with SEX?? HELL NO! If anything we as a generation have become MORE generous because lo and behold!... the STD rates have increased since the 90's (https://www.cdc.gov/media/releases/2017/p0926-std-prevention.html

We have definitely become a GENERATION OF SEXUAL GENEROSITY. Am I here to argue whether it is a negative or positive thing? Not at all. My point is that this generation has become generous with sex. PERIOD.

Shit I think i've become more "generous" myself haha. It could be older age or my freedom due to being single for such a long time, but I find myself wanting to have more sex and try different ventures with different people before I decide to settle down in a relationship. And is that wrong? If you are a double-standard pompous shit who thinks women should be housewives and only have sex with one male partner their entire lives, it is. Otherwise, it is perfectly normal as long as sex is practiced safely. Here's a great example: last year I was dating this guy I met through a mutual friend. One time we were at a bar in the city and he saw me looking at women who walked passed. I am sure he saw because at some point he asked me if I were bisexual in which I honestly answered YES. He replied, "Cool so am I! I hope that doesn't scare you away" ....AWKWARD SILENCE lmao! OMG at first I was caught off guard because that had never been told to me. But after I digested the thought, I was completely fine with it. So fine that I followed up with many questions including the obvious "why did you choose to be bisexual?" His answer: "THE MORE, THE MERRIER" lmao shit, I respect it! A lot of us feel that way! 
Furthermore and my strongest point on this topic, THIS generation in comparison to previous generations literally have sex at our fingertips 24/7. Yes ladies and gentlemen, I am referring to social media lmao sighs. There are over 50 apps and social media websites dedicated to dating, relationships and yes, SEX. Tinder. Bumble. Instagram. Snapchat. Facebook. Blackplanet. Migente. Backpage. Black people meet. Christian Mingle. All dedicated to creating wonderful social, human interactions in order to facilitate the goal of intimacy and having sex! While the creators of these websites and many people who use them do not have the SOLE intention to have sex, it's not realistic to believe it doesn't happen. Unless you are celibate or a virgin until marriage (which I support 100% so kudos to you), sex is at least ONE of the goals in mind when you create an account. As a result, getting sex these days has become easier and has caused us to become very generous. Do we have to have sex? Absolutely not. We do it because WE WANT TO. Getting sex via social media accounts has also made it very convenient and it is no secret that us humans love convenience. 
With that being said, i'm interested to see if this generation will maintain its sexual generosity. Maybe it will increase and open doors to other aspects in society? Who knows. I'm also curious to see how future generations will turn out... ALL PUNS INTENDED ;-) haha

15 ESSENTIAL things teenagers should learn that's not taught in high school.. or ever

"I wish I knew then, what I know now" says 99% of adults. As cliche as this saying is, most of us know firsthand how true it really is. The answer is WHY do we, as adults, even have to tell ourselves this?

We are in the year 2018 and the majority of the schools in the United States Education system are STILL teaching students useless and unimportant topics such as how to solve quadratic equations and the characteristics of ROCKS, instead of essential things students will NEED to know throughout their lives as adults. I mean seriously. I can cook and use ice just fine without knowing water's boiling or freezing point. And knowing the perimeter of a house doesn't matter to me if I can't or don't know how to actually BUY one. Furthermore, this became an alarming issue to me when I became a high school teacher last year and noticed none of the teachers were teaching their students these essential topics because it was not part of the curriculum.
I graduated high school 10 years ago (Class 08') and MORE THAN HALF of the shit I learned in high school, I did not see again or utilize as an adult. Now let me be clear. What i'm NOT saying is that school or education is unimportant. It absolutely is important! Because of school, I know how to count my money, communicate, write in clear sentences that you are currently reading lol, and know what our country's constitution consists of. What I AM SAYING is that schools need to eliminate a lot of the unnecessary shit they teach and replace the curriculum with USEFUL AND ESSENTIAL information that can be used to INCREASE the chances of survival and that is required to live as a successful adult in today's society. Some of this essential information includes but is not limited to:

1. Resume and Cover letter Writing - Very important to know and should be added to EVERY high school curriculum.
2. What a BUDGET is and how to create one - AKA knowing whether to pay your phone bill or go the bar and spend all of your money on drinks for you and all of your friends and now you can't contact them unless you have wifi. 

3. How to manually sew and tailor your OWN clothes - Who wants to rely and constantly spend money at the dry cleaners, when you can do it yourself for free. Definitely comes in handy for emergency situations and has saved me from many embarrassing clothing mishaps in public haha. 

4. How to dress professionally - I learned this the hard way. Like that time when I was 16 and wore JEANS and flip flops to a job interview... so disgusting and no I did not get the job lmao. WTF was I thinking!?

5. PHONE AND EMAIL ETIQUETTE - Because we currently live in a society that has gotten accustomed to texting and social media so now a lot of people forgot how to talk on the phone or write correctly. No, it is not appropriate to write or say "WYD" to your supervisor.

6. Knowing the differences between a checking account, savings account, stocks, and credit. INCLUDING how to open each as soon as age allows if your parents have not done so for you already - No, they are not the same.

7. How pension and retirement works - No, they are not the same lol.

8. How to EFFECTIVELY ask questions - Knowing how to ask a question is a very important aspect an individual must learn. It is how we gain knowledge, comprehension, and how we land a job so you should never be afraid to ask questions. Hint: yes you should always ask a question when the interviewer asks "do you have any questions?".
9. How to use all Microsoft Offices, not just WORD - Yes, they are other programs in Microsoft Office besides WORD haha.

10. EVERYTHING THERE IS TO KNOW ABOUT CREDIT!!! - If this list was numbered based on importance, this would be number 2. 

11. How to pay bills AND be responsible for paying one ASAP - No, it's not just plugging in your credit card information and setting your bills on AUTO-PAY. Most of us know the dangers of auto-pay sighs lmao. 

12. Prospective careers and the Job Market - No one wants to go to college for 4 years and discover that the job market for their major is not in demand. Shit would totally suck. Sorry journalism majors *sad face*

13. Financing/Leasing a car, apartment, or house - Because it's not as simple as saving up $1000 and then you get the keys. Here's a hint: CREDIT... see #10 LOL.

14. Cooking to survive - You don't have to be a gourmet chef, but later down the road in life your body will thank you for not eating box macaroni and cheese, ramen's noodles, or cans of spaghetti and meatballs every night.

15. How to be and remain RESILIENT - Resiliency is defined as the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties. It's toughness. It's the reason why we and the generation before us survived. If this list was numbered based on importance, this would be number 1 but i'll just say I saved the best for last. LIFE IS NOT EASY. It doesn't matter what environment you come from; you will struggle, scream, be angry, cry, go hungry some days, go sleepless some days, and will encounter many situations that will make you want to quit and die. And that is fucking REALITY. BUT. When you learn to be resilient, you know you will get passed any and every adversity you face. It's part of our human nature to survive. AND THIS is the part, the essential information that they don't teach you in high school that you should and NEED TO KNOW!
There are MANY other essential things teenagers should learn how to do before adulthood such as washing clothes, hygienic practices, and wearing condoms. BUT this list I comprised should definitely become a priority that schools add in their curriculum. So there you have it!

THIS LIST > Quadratic Equations and Rock Characteristics
Make sure you or any teenagers you know stay in school so we're not confused about what that symbol above means LMAO :)

10 signs someone doesn't want anything SERIOUS with you

We've all been there. You meet someone. They're sexy. They have eyes that seem to sparkle and a smile that would light up a room. They're easy to talk to, the VIBES are amazing, and their personality is great! You feel like a winner when the level of attraction is mutual and you start thinking, "this is about to be my future wife/husband and the other parent to my future kids, SCORE!" lmao. You start getting to know and spending time with them but something seems off. Now you're left feeling confused and kind of sad because you thought everything was all good but now you don't know what's going on.

Well my friend. Sounds like this may be signs of the classic case of someone not wanting anything serious with you. Now don't confuse THESE SIGNS with the signs of classic friend zoning OR signs that a person just isn't into you. They differ because in THOSE signs, that person doesn't want anything to do with you AT ALL. In THESE signs, the person DOES want something to do with you... just not anything SERIOUS. So here's 10 signs that someone doesn't want anything SERIOUS WITH YOU:

SERIAL Relationships are a KILLER

Ask yourself how many SERIOUS relationships YOU THINK you've been in. 1? 2? 10? Before you continue reading, go ahead and count. Then ask yourself how quickly do you get into serious relationships. After 1 month? 6 months? 1 year?

I've been in 2 serious relationships in my life so far. 2. The first was when I was 17 that lasted about a year and a half...young love I tell you lol. The second was when I was 21 that lasted about 3 years and produced my wonderful son :)

Now it's fair to say that what a "SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP" means is very subjective, meaning it's definition is different from one person to the next. So for argument sake, MY definition of a serious relationship is as follows: 

I was never the popular girl in school

Growing up, since kindergarten all the way up until I finished high school, I was never the popular girl in school.

Easter egg hunting or Dating?

On Easter when I was 12, my mom asked me to take my 5 year old brother easter egg hunting for his first time. We grabbed our baskets and began searching for eggs. Being 12, I understood the weight that eggs put on a basket so I only picked up a few. My brother on the other hand, started overstuffing his basket! I'm like "bro you can't put all of those eggs in your basket, you're going to break the basket." At 5 years old, he obviously didn't understand the weight aspect I was referring to. So he looked at me with a puzzled expression and said "Why not? The more eggs I put in my basket, I win and get to take all of them home". I replied, "if you continue putting too many eggs in your basket, it's going to break and you'll no longer have a basket". Still with a puzzled and now mischievous expression, he disregarded my warning and continued overstuffing his basket until....SNAP! I heard the basket break and my brother started crying because all of his eggs fell. Some eggs broke, some didn't. Being the mean older sister I was LOL, I walked up to him and said, "I told you not to do that! Now you have NO basket and you can't have mine. What are you going to do now?" I kid you not, through his tears he replied "fine, i'm going to grab my favorite egg and carry it home to show mom". I said, "but bro you just picked up over 15 eggs, why are you choosing THAT egg?" And he finally said, "out of all of those eggs it's my favorite. It has cool designs on it and it happens to have all of MY favorite colors!" 

Smart kid lol. 
Growing up, most of us experienced easter egg hunting. You search for different colored and designed eggs to put in your basket for fun or in competition. You may have to swap out and choose eggs over others because you know you can't keep them ALL. You know that if you add too many eggs to your basket, may cause the basket (and some of the eggs) to break. But at the end, there will always be THAT ONE EGG that shines over the others. 

Well the process of DATING is a lot like easter egg hunting. Think about it. You get to know different peoples' Flaws. Favorites. Hobbies. Family situations. Occupations. Goals. Pet Peeves. Weird shit they do behind closed doors. Everything possible you need and want to learn, to PICK the one person you potentially want to spend the rest of your life with.  Throughout the process you may drop people, get dropped lol, and hearts may break; but (hopefully) in the end you'll meet SOMEONE who will shine over the others. 

First-Date Sex

NEVER have sex on the first date, it's forbidden! .....Said by relationship experts, writers, authors, psychologists, therapists, and Steve Harvey all over the world.

Well not by I. Not here. 

In dating, there are many rules that people are supposed to follow that apparently some "dating genius" created with the outcome that you'll find your ideal soulmate. Some of them which we have all heard before include, "the man is supposed to pay on the first date", "no kissing on the first date", and yes "NEVER have sex on the first date". 

So why was this rule created. Well why are ANY rules created? To maintain human integrity and withhold human morals and standards. But we ask ourselves this question almost every time we're faced with a moral challenge: If there were NO morals and standards, would we still hold back and refrain from doing things that FEEL so NATURAL and RIGHT to us? Now this can be easily translated into why laws and the judicial system were created lmao but that's at the extreme level. Right now i'm talking about SEX and DATING.

9 ways to deal with Rejection aka the Wicked CURVEBALL

In the game of baseball, a curveball is thrown by the pitcher with the intent that the batter won't HIT.
Well in the game of DATING, a curveball is thrown by someone with the intent that YOU won't HIT!
Another one of Kay's famous analogies haha.

When someone rejects you, or what in New York City has been coined the term "curves" you, is embarrassing, sometimes heart-breaking, and terrible. It can happen when you're dating OR if you're already in a relationship with someone. Sometimes it happens unexpectedly and unfortunately it seems to always happen when you REALLY like someone. Bottom line is no one likes to get curved lmao. Nonetheless, it happens to the best of us! MEN AND WOMEN. (Yes women get curved too)

For instance, I vividly remember being thrown my first "curveball" lol. When I was in my first year of college 8 years ago, I used to see this guy on the train who I thought was the flyest and cutest thing walking. I wanted him bad! You know when you form a crush on someone you see ONCE so you pray and hope to see them again!? Well it was like that. I began seeing him from 1-2 times a week and eventually began seeing him daily. After what felt like forever of trying to muster up the confidence to talk to him, I finally did and said a corny "HI DO YOU RIDE THIS TRAIN OFTEN?" like I didn't notice the fact that he saw me staring at him almost every day lmao! Long story short, he told me I was pretty but too tall for his taste (i'm 5'11) and that wicked curveball lead to a STRIKE OUT! I was so hurt to the point where I started asking higher powers why I was cursed with height LOL. I eventually got over it with the help of a guy who saw my height and thought I was the sexiest thing walking, and I never questioned my height again :)

So to help others with rejection AKA the wicked curveball, I came up with 10 ways to deal with it: