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Woman love PORN too & 6 reasons we do

PORN PORN PORN. Four letter word people are afraid to talk about next to LOVE lol. I have watched PORN since I was 15 years old. Even BEFORE I lost my virginity. Captivating isn't it? In fact, studies show that 1 in 3 WOMEN watch porn weekly and OVER HALF (55%) of women watch it monthly. Nice little statistic for you :)

The reason I began writing is because I love to talk about all of the AWKWARD and UNCONVENTIONAL things people don't like to talk about. It's also part of my job as a writer to do research on what I write about so that i'm not providing any false information to my readers. I digress.

Think back to the first time YOU watched porn. If you were born in the 80's or 90's like me, most likely you watched it on a VHS tape lmao. And if you were born after 2005, most likely you watched it online for the first time. MY first time watching porn was when I was 15. I was home alone in my uncle's room looking for the Jurassic Park movie on VHS and picked up a tape with a blank cover. I put it in the VCR and rewinded it all the way but not TOO much that I had to watch the previews. When I pressed play, I saw full frontal of a woman on her knees. I was like WTF??!! *cue the surprised emoji* LMAO but I didn't stop the tape. I kept watching it in awe. The rest is history!

The point of my little anecdote is that WOMEN watch porn too. A LOT. I don't know why men or people in general find it to be appalling or weird or unconventional. Because it's not.

Although there are a lot of studies that say porn is super harmful. I am a firm believer that IN MODERATION, porn has it's positive effects for women, just like it does for men. Healthy actually. Reasons include:

1. It allows a woman to find new tricks for the bedroom.
2. It strengthens and increases a woman's LIBIDO (sex drive).
3. If a woman is masturating while watching it, it allows her to explore more pleasure points in and on her body.
4. If a woman has a boyfriend or husband who's away, watching porn and masturbating in the comfort of her home may eliminating cheating.
5. A woman can watch it WITH her boyfriend or husband to spice things up in the bedroom. (Definitely better than netflix LOL)
6. It's hilarious. Honestly, sometimes I don't even watch porn to masturbate. I watch it to laugh lmao

So let us put away all of the childish antics and "unconventional" shit-talk about women not watching porn. Because we do.

And with a statistic like 1 in 3 women watch it weekly? Maybe men are going to be the ones looking in their girlfriends phone bookmarks and history from now on lmao.

How to Support Local Businesses and Friends

I remember being on Instagram and seeing a meme about people who support major clothing lines, artists and celebrities who are total strangers to them; and never support local businesses, talent, and products of friends who are up and coming.

As true as it may be, this definitely upsets me.

Especially when the businesses, talent, or people who are up and coming that seek our support are people we call friends!

Supporting doesn't take much effort. If someone you know owns a beauty salon? Go get your hair done there. If someone you know owns a lounge? Get a drink there. If someone you know is throwing a party somewhere and is charging a fee? Go show love and pay that fee! If someone you know owns a tattoo shop? Check out the talent there and get a tattoo. If someone you know has their song on iTunes? Pay for that song and give their music a shot! The list about how you can support an individual or business goes on and on.

How far will you go for Money?

What's the LEAST you've done for money? What's the LEAST you'll DO for money?? Not the MOST, but the LEAST?

Sold lemonade? Delivered newspapers? Delivered pizza? Uber driver? Bartend? Worked Retail? Stripped? Sold drugs? Worked a shit load of overtime hours? I think the list goes on and on about what you can do for some extra cash in your pocket. Legal or illegal. And I, ladies and gentlemen, am no stranger to the hustle of money-making LOL. No judgement zone here! 

Walk of Shame Stories

AHH Walk of Shame stories. In this lifetime I am no stranger to them lol.

What is the "Walk of Shame" ?

You know when you have the time of your life having wild sex with someone all night... But you fall asleep in their bed and when you wake up, the sun is already out. So you have to do what you can with your messy hair (or beard for men lol) and quickly find and put on your clothes... carefully not to wake the other person up and you call a cab to go home. BUT... that moment of walking to your house you feel like everyone is staring at you and you know they smell the sex reeking from your pores but you don't care because you just had the best 3am sex a few hours ago... Yes THAT is the walk of shame lmao

Chemistry Versus History or BOTH

Have you ever noticed how you speak to a NEW woman/man that you're interested in 
versus a woman/man whom you have history with? Let's examine it:

Speaking to a new woman/man:

"Hey cutie. How was your day today? You blow my mind away. I want to make you laugh. I want to make you happy. Your ex is lucky. I'm looking forward to getting to know you! I would love to take you on a date! Can I please take you out? Okay speak to you later beautiful."

Speaking to ex or person whom you have history with:

"Wassup. What u doing. Oh ok. Wanna go out. It's whatever. Oh ok. Ttyl." 

Seem familiar? LMAO...

Can you DEAL the Cards you're Dealt?

I remember my co worker and I got into a general discussion about life. He asked me "Do you think life is PREDICTABLE?" My initial answer was YES because at the time I felt like a person IS in control of their own life. If you want a good education? You can do that. If you want to be addicted to drugs? Start doing drugs and it will happen. But then as we continued the discussion, I started thinking about my own life.... and that made me have an entirely different answer. LIFE ISN'T PREDICTABLE AT ALL. Curse you Cesar lmao.

So is life really unpredictable?? I hate cliches but is the saying "You deal with the cards you are dealt" true? Or is it more true to say "It's not about the cards you are dealt, but how you play the hand"? And if so, how do you stay positive dealing with a "hand of cards" that you are given?

False Feelings of Newness

The hardest part of a relationship is staying and dealing with someone AFTER the "newness" feeling fades away. I mean come on. How many of us loveeeee that feeling of being with someone new who gives us the butterflies-in-stomach feeling?! You stay on the phone with them for 5 hours at a time. You text them all day every day. You spend like a hundred hours kissing. And the SEX is awesome. But how long does that newness feeling last? Realistically not long because eventually flaws start to show and you get sick of someone's shit. Not only do flaws start showing, but when you're in a relationship with someone for a really long time (about more than a year and a half), you become comfortable. You become content. And the sad truth is you also become BORING. We are human. We all do it. No matter how bad you try to fight the thought. In a long-term relationship, one person or both people in the relationship become so comfortable and boring that they forget how to be the person that their partner fell in love with, so they start seeking it elsewhere.

Norms of Social media & H-I-A-T-U-S

So in the past, I decided to deactivate my Facebook and Instagram and go on a hiatus for a long period of time. And while I've been just fine about it.... OTHER people literally went crazy and asked me a million questions when they found out I don't have it anymore. As if it's NOT a norm to have social media. WTF??? Then I thought about it. When you meet someone new, besides what's your name and where are you from, what question is almost ALWAYS asked: What's your Instagram/Facebook? 

Now the question is: If you don't have social media, why are you considered crazy or some sort of social outcast? I mean you SHOULDN'T be. But based on people's reaction, i'm starting believe that's exactly what it is. Why do I think that? Let me tell you guys what happened to me on the train on my way home today...