Balancing Relationships & Money

Next to sex and fidelity, one of the most controversial topics that comes up in a relationship is:

Yup... MONEY.

Two people who are in a relationship who try to balance and share finances is stressful. Relationships fail because both parties don't agree when it comes to money. For example, the whole idea of "I make more than you"or "you make more than me" or "I spend more on you, than you spend on me". It's safe to say that next to cheating, money is definitely a leading cause in breakups.

Think of your last relationship. WHO made more money? WHO worked? Now between the two of you that MADE MORE money or worked, who had more "SAY-SO" or "POWER" in the relationship? Exactly my point. Whoever makes more money usually holds more power as far as making decisions in the relationship EVEN IF the decisions have NOTHING to do with finances. And the person that makes less money or doesn't work at all usually feels powerless and useless.

FOR EXAMPLE: A girl works at McDonalds making $8/hr and her man works at Home Depot making $16/hr. She has money but not more than him. but can contribute to the relationship; like taking him out & buying him shit here & there. I mean he does more for her because he makes more but at least she's doing something... but do you think that matters??? Absolutely not. He will still complain that he's doing more & putting more in the relationship. ORRR she'll start to feel jealous and insecure about not doing enough for him & will start complaining. This causes fights; someone will get fed up.

ANOTHER EXAMPLE: You your man been together for 2 yrs and he loses his job. He's been unemployed for 3 months but you have a decent job so you are able to pay the bills and get by until he's able to find something. MOST LIKELY BECAUSE HE IS A MAN he will start feeling useless, upset, and depressed that his girl is paying for everything and he can't. He can't take her out to eat anymore and can't buy her anything. AS A RESULT, THIS MAY BUILD TENSION AND PUT A DAMPER ON THE RELATIONSHIP.

EVEN IF YOU PUT THESE SCENARIOS IN VICE VERSA WITH THE MAN OR THE WOMAN, IT'S STILL THE SAME THING. NO ONE WANTS TO BE BROKE OR FEEL LIKE THEY AREN'T DOING ANYTHING FINANCIALLY IN THE RELATIONSHIP. 

So the bottom line is when two people are in a relationship, the income and financial decisions should be made TOGETHER. If you can't trust your partner with your money or don't feel comfortable sharing finances with that person, then that's not the person you should be with... Period!

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