Social Networks & Relationships Part II


I was studying and reading my Social Psychology textbook for my exam after Spring Break and lo behold the coincidence i've come across! So I decided to read more about it and realized these are things I already know! Which is:

According to research, two people who are in a relationship that have social networks are many times MORE likely to either cheat or be less committed to their partner.

For the study, 109 women and 39 men were studied.

And according to Reuters Health and I quote, "PEOPLE WHO ADD NEW ROMANTIC INTERESTS TO THEIR FACEBOOK FRIENDS LIST WHILE IN A ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP TEND TO AVE A LOWER LEVEL OF COMMITMENT TO THEIR CURRENT MATE. THE FACT OF HAVING OLD FLAMES ON ONE'S FRIEND LIST, HOWEVER, IS UNRELATED TO COMMITMENT LEVEL".

Surprising? I think not. Let me go on...

Michelle Drounin, a psychologist at Indiana University also states, "PEOPLE ARE USING FACEBOOK AND OTHER SOCIAL MEDIA SITES TO MAKE ROMANTIC CONNECTIONS WITH PEOPLE THEY WOULD ENTERTAIN HAVING A RELATIONSHIP WITH, EVEN IF THEY ARE IN A COMMITTED ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP. PARTICIPANTS WHO WERE LESS COMMITTED TO THEIR PARTNERS WERE LIKELIER TO ACCEPT AND EVEN INITIATE FACEBOOK FRIEND REQUESTS WITH PEOPLE THEY VIEWED AS ROMANTIC INTERESTS."

You shouldn't be surprised anymore because we've ALL done this before. And it's usually those who say, "Facebook and Instagram mean nothing to me"... YET when their partner says delete it, then it becomes a huge problem.

So I contacted my guy friend for some insight, and he too admittedly says he's done this while single AND NOT single! Of course you shouldn't be surprised LOL. TOOOOOO many people are saying "Facebook or instagram is messing up my relationship" for a reason! There has to be some truth to it right?

It's also not a coincidence that there is a correlation between people who DON'T have social networks with successful marriages. 

With all that being said, i'm not one-sided and I do believe there is two sides to everything. For example, my cousin has been married to his wife for 9 years, they have two beautiful daughters and plan on having another one, and BOTH of them have a Facebook and have each other as friends. When I asked both of them yesterday how they were, they said they are very very happy with one another. But that's just one relationship vs. the thousands that are ending because of social networks. 

If a person is willing to choose any type of social networks over your relationship, maybe you should think twice about it because chances are, they're being entertained by various people on it. But if you feel like "hey it's just harmless flirting" and you don't mind if your partner does it as well, by all means!

Every relationship is different. Different circumstances. Different individuals. Just sharing some cool research :)

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